Boredom

“Daddy, do you miss having Mommy?”

“Yes, Brady, I do.”

“Me, too.”

And then the conversation becomes about finding a new mommy. I’m reading a book about dating as a single parent, so I want to put some of that into practice — notably, to make sure they are “okay” with me dating. For that to happen, I need to make sure they understand dating as best as possible.

“In order to find a new mommy, I’ll need to get to know her and become best friends with her. That might mean I’m not with you all the time like I am now, but I promise to do my best to spend as much time with you and still get to know her.

“I also want to make sure you know that she’s not going to be just like Mommy. She’ll look different and act different and like different things. But, she will love me and she will love both of you. And she’ll be just the right wife for me and just the right mommy for both of you. And we’ll all love her.”

Brady chimes in: “I’m bored without a mommy.” I guess we need to work a little on the meaning of “bored,” but I think I understand what he means. He’s tired of this feeling of not having a mommy around. Like me, he’s just weary of that absence in our lives. It’s getting old.

He adds, “I feel like mommy’s been gone for five years.” (It’s been a little over 2 1/2.)

And then Halle speaks up. “Well, I feel like she’s been gone for SIX years,” says my four-year old.

Good talk, kids. Good talk.

6 thoughts on “Boredom”

  1. My dad passed away a few years back, and while my mom will never date again (because of her MS) I’ve always felt this strong desire for her to be loved again by a spouse like how my dad loved her…even if it’s different. Not for me, but for her. I think that helps me relate to your kids somewhat even though they’re also looking for someone to love them as well, like their mom did…even if it’s different.

  2. Joseph Lookabaugh said: My dad passed away a few years back, and while my mom will never date again (because of her MS) I’ve always felt this strong desire for her to be loved again by a spouse like how my dad loved her…even if it’s different. Not for me, but for her. I think that helps me relate to your kids somewhat even though they’re also looking for someone to love them as well, like their mom did…even if it’s different.

  3. We pray every night for “A new mama for Brady and Halle and a new wife for Mr. Brad.” I told Logan today that “Mr. Brad” is coming over tomorrow. I said, “Who comes with Mr. Brad?” He said, “Brady and Halle…and a new mama. Is their new mama coming too?” I said, “Not yet, Logan…but soon.” :) Many prayers, lots of love, and blessings of God’s timing.

  4. Leslie said: We pray every night for “A new mama for Brady and Halle and a new wife for Mr. Brad.” I told Logan today that “Mr. Brad” is coming over tomorrow. I said, “Who comes with Mr. Brad?” He said, “Brady and Halle…and a new mama. Is their new mama coming too?” I said, “Not yet, Logan…but soon.” :) Many prayers, lots of love, and blessings of God’s timing.

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